Inspired by Forever by Bride Dressed In Black
Have you ever had someone tell you to, “Just be yourself and everything will work out”? It sounds so simple doesn’t it? “Be Yourself.” What does that even mean? After all, if we could simply “be ourselves,” then wouldn’t the world that surrounds us be a lot different? I often wonder what friendships would be like if we could simply be who we are inside; to not feel so much pressure to be less or more of an individual than we think we are supposed to be.
So with all the pressures us to conform to the ways of the world how can you “be yourself?” Here are a few tips I believe will help you succeed at being yourself.
1. Never say or think negative things about yourself, such as, “I never do anything right.” “I’ll never change.” “I’m ugly.” “I look terrible.” “I’m dumb.” “Who could ever love me?” Matthew 12:37 says, …by your words you will be justified…, and by your words you will be condemned…. Proverbs 23:7 says, …as [a man] thinketh in his heart, so is he. In other words, the way we talk and think about ourselves reveals how we feel about ourselves.
2. Speak good things about yourself. For example say something like: “I am the righteousness of God in Christ.” “I am made acceptable through Christ.” “God created me and formed me with His own hands, and God doesn’t make mistakes.” Perhaps you can do this while you are getting ready for your day or when you’re driving to work Whenever the time, it’s always good to stay positive and truly believe the things you are saying to yourself.
3. Never compare yourself with other people. God must love variety or He wouldn’t have created us all differently; even down to our fingerprints. You’ll never succeed at being yourself if you’re trying to be like someone else. Other people can be a good example to you, but duplicating even their good traits will manifest differently through your individual personality.
4. Focus on your potential instead of your limitations. Actress Helen Hayes was told early in her career that if she were four inches taller she’d be the greatest actress of her time. Her coaches tried various methods of stretching her, but nothing increased her height. She refused to concentrate on the supposed limitation of being five feet tall and decided to concentrate on her potential. As a result, she was eventually cast as Mary, Queen of Scotland, one of the tallest queens who ever lived.
5. Find something you like to do that you do well, and do it over and over. If you spend your time doing things you’re not good at, it’ll frustrate you and cause you to feel defeated and unsuccessful.
6. Have the courage to be different and deal with criticism. Be a God-pleaser, not a man-pleaser. If you dare to be different, you’ll have to expect some criticism. Going along with the crowd when you know in your heart God’s leading you a different way is one reason people don’t succeed at being themselves. You won’t like yourself very much if you go against your own convictions.
7. Don’t let the way another person treats you determine your worth. Remember, you’re not trying to please man, but God; you have value through Christ. God loves you and values you just the way you are.
8. Keep your flaws in perspective. People with a high level of confidence have just as many weaknesses as people without confidence, but they concentrate on their strengths, not their flaws or weaknesses.
So as I close I want you to think about who you are from a different prospective: God’s. Speak of yourself as though it was God, the Father, describing you. The new life He has given you does not make room for self-hate, self-derision or self-inflicted insults. You are His own handiwork, His workmanship, recreated in Christ Jesus, born anew that you may do those good. He predestined you, taking paths which He prepared ahead of time that you should walk in them–living the good life which He prearranged and made for you to live. Remember He constantly says, “I love you! I call you with and everlasting love constantly. If you were to think of yourself as I think of you, O how different you would be. I want you to love yourself as I so love you!”
Tim Ewing is the founder of Kindred Concert Ministries. You can learn more about Kindred by going to www.facebook.com/kindredconcerts or by emailing him at firstname.lastname@example.org
Bride Dressed in Black is a hip rock group from the Baltimore Maryland area. “Forever” can be found on their new CD titled “Battle the Beast,” which can be found on iTunes, Amazon, their website and always at live events. For more information about Bride Dressed in Black you can visit their website at www.bridedressedinblack.com
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